The outside of my windows is lined with small snow hills. I had to bust out my snow boots. I like them—they weren’t too pricey. I love the sound of snow boots marching on snow; it’s a specific crunch that I can’t quite satisfy with words. Even so, it’s nice to kick them off and feel the heat emanating from inside my beautiful room. I have curtains now lacy and white. Something small, but it makes me feel so welcome when I get home. My home doesn’t have much charm on the outside; it’s a bit too modern and cold, but I like it. I’m grateful for it. The sound of snow under the weight of my feet and curtains I chose, reminds me of the things that I love currently as I keep moving forward (in body but more so in busy mind).

I remember walking into an old university library, where a random man told me I looked move (mo-veh or mean), but my sister always squeezes my cheeks when I visit and tells me how cute I am.

My family loves me. I feel it in their voices and in the way they love me through my stubbornness. I carry them with me everywhere. This connection manifests in subtle ways. When I hear someone speak English in a mellifluous Creole accent, it reminds me of Mel, of honey, of my aunts, and my parents. When I hear women who speak way too loudly than is appropriate for public, I think of my cousins who are always shouting over the phone, speaking over each other but somehow piecing together jokes and stories well. I enjoy observing my family dynamics, particularly how they joke with each other and how no one stops to ask me why I’m so quiet but lets me join in when I’m ready.

I recall laughing loudly in an old church, and while someone once told me my laugh wasn’t very ladylike, I’ve come to love it as part of who I am. Better than the sound of tears, I suppose. Tears signal to others that something’s wrong, but now I’ve learned to appreciate the sound of my sobs. They melt the veneer of the fake happiness I sometimes wear.

“Whoever told you your eyes were pretty lied.” I adore the look of my eyes in the sun; they are like amber pools of brown. Likewise, I love how colorful and funky I dress; it’s how I feel on the inside—loud, bold, tasteful, and slightly unsightly.

I love that I’m persistent and will find a way to move forward, even when I can’t see the first step. I know how it can be viewed as too forward, but I have no intention of leaving my desires behind, only to regret what I didn’t pursue.

These are my current gratitudes—for myself and for others. I hope to have much life to live, fewer regrets to make, and greater changes to embrace, along with questionable decisions to navigate. But today, I will be grateful for the fact that I like the reflection in shop windows as I walk by, living life in my own quiet world.

I’m grateful for all the ways God has made me, and a reminder to you: though flawed you are wonderful. Let no one take that from you. Don’t let anyone who hasn’t taken the time to truly understand you tell you that you’re full of yourself for loving the reflection you’ve worked hard to cultivate.

This year was difficult, but I am grateful for the unwavering support of those who truly care for me, the unmeasured peace that Jesus has given me, and the continued journey of learning to love myself alongside my growing pains.

I am still often skeptical of people, my faith, and the future, but I am less anxious about being misunderstood and I pay closer attention to those who truly take time to understand me.

May the new year good or bad bring gratitude.

³ Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, ⁴ and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, ⁵ and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.

Romans 5:3-5